Habits & Unwanted Patterns

Changing habits by working with the subconscious mind

Habits and unwanted patterns can feel incredibly frustrating. You may know exactly what you want to change, yet find yourself repeating behaviours automatically, often without realising you’re doing them.

This is because habits are not driven by willpower alone. They are learned patterns held in the subconscious mind and nervous system.

I work with habits and unwanted patterns using clinical hypnotherapy and mindfulness, helping change happen at the level where habits are formed and maintained.

Common habits I work with

I regularly support people with habits such as:

  • smoking

  • nail biting

  • skin picking (dermatillomania)

  • hair pulling (trichotillomania)

  • thumb sucking

  • compulsive or repetitive behaviours

  • habits linked to stress or anxiety

  • unwanted patterns that feel automatic or hard to stop

If a behaviour feels out of your control, that’s often a sign it’s being driven subconsciously.

Why habits persist — even when you want them to stop

Habits usually develop because, at some point, they served a purpose.

Often a habit:

  • reduces anxiety or tension

  • provides comfort or relief

  • helps regulate overwhelming feelings

  • becomes associated with reward or safety

Over time, the brain learns that the behaviour is “useful” and begins to repeat it automatically — even when it’s no longer helpful.

This is why habits can continue despite strong motivation to change.

How hypnotherapy helps with habits and patterns

Hypnotherapy works directly with the subconscious mind — the part of the brain responsible for automatic behaviour.

In a calm, focused state, hypnotherapy can help to:

  • reduce urges and compulsions

  • change subconscious associations with reward or comfort

  • address the emotional drivers behind the habit

  • interrupt automatic patterns

  • introduce healthier alternatives

Rather than forcing change, we work with the system that created the habit, allowing change to feel more natural and sustainable.

You remain fully aware and in control throughout sessions.

Smoking cessation with hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy is widely recognised as an effective approach for stopping smoking, because smoking is largely driven by subconscious associations rather than conscious choice.

Smoking often becomes linked with:

  • stress relief

  • reward

  • habit loops triggered by time, place, or emotion

Hypnotherapy works by changing these subconscious associations so that cigarettes no longer feel necessary or appealing.

Smoking cessation hypnotherapy is typically offered as a short course, and works best when you feel ready to stop.

Nail biting, skin picking, hair pulling & thumb sucking

These habits often begin as self-soothing responses to anxiety or stress and then become automatic over time.

Many people:

  • don’t realise they’re doing the behaviour

  • notice it increases during stress or tiredness

  • feel frustrated or ashamed about it

Hypnotherapy helps by working with the subconscious patterns that trigger the behaviour, reducing the urge and creating space for change without force or punishment.

A compassionate, nervous-system aware approach

My approach combines:

  • clinical hypnotherapy

  • mindfulness

  • an understanding of anxiety, habit loops, and regulation

This is particularly helpful if:

  • habits return under pressure

  • willpower-based approaches haven’t worked

  • shame or self-criticism are involved

  • habits feel linked to anxiety or overwhelm

Change happens at a pace that feels respectful and realistic.

Online and in-person sessions

I work with clients:

  • online worldwide, and

  • in person in Chichester and West Sussex

Online hypnotherapy is highly effective for habit work and allows flexibility and continuity.

Considering working together?

If a habit or unwanted pattern is affecting your wellbeing, you’re welcome to get in touch for an initial conversation to explore whether this approach feels right for you.

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